So, here’s the story: I have this girl best friend. She’s been there for me through thick and thin, knows my quirks, my tastes, and probably what I’m thinking before I even say it. Naturally, she knows about my girlfriend, and if I’m being honest, she doesn’t like her. At all. And the thing is, I can’t shake this feeling that there’s more to it than just “not getting along.” Could it be that she actually… likes me?
Let’s break down the signs.
1. The Silent Judgments and Side-Eyes
Every time I mention my girlfriend, there’s this look. A split-second eye-roll or a smirk that screams, “Why are you even with her?” She never actually says anything, but the judgment is real. If I say we’re going out, she raises an eyebrow. If I say I had a great time, she sighs, as if I’m sharing my Netflix password with a stranger. Maybe it’s jealousy, maybe it’s frustration — or maybe she thinks she’d be better in that spot.
“Sometimes silence says more than a thousand words.”
2. She’s Always Pointing Out Flaws in My Girlfriend
Any minor quirk or habit my girlfriend has, my best friend’s already noticed — and has something to say about it. If my girlfriend doesn’t text me back right away, my best friend’s the first to point it out. “She should be making more time for you,” she’ll say. Or, “I just don’t think she’s giving you her best.” It’s like she’s on a personal mission to find every flaw and make sure I notice.
But here’s where it gets interesting: she’s never been this critical with anyone else I’ve dated.
3. Doesn’t Like Being Left Out
Whenever I make plans with my girlfriend, my best friend finds a reason to call or text at that exact moment, usually with something “urgent.” She’ll say it’s not a big deal and then proceed to act moody the next day if I didn’t respond. It’s like she wants to make sure I know she’s still there, that I should be prioritizing her — maybe even over my girlfriend.
“Sometimes, the hardest competition is the one who’s been there all along.”
4. She Brings Up Our “History” Out of Nowhere
We’ve got a lot of shared memories, inside jokes, and little moments from our friendship. But recently, she’s been bringing these up more, especially in front of my girlfriend, as if to remind her (and me) that she was here first. She’ll laugh about the time we got lost in the city or how we have a tradition of watching cheesy horror movies every Halloween. It’s not that these memories aren’t special; it’s that she’s weaponizing them, almost like she’s staking her claim.
5. Playfully Teases Me in Ways Only She Can
This one gets me. She has this way of teasing me — throwing in a nickname or poking fun at some habit that only someone really close to me would know. It’s playful, but it feels personal, like she’s reminding me just how well we understand each other. My girlfriend, on the other hand, hasn’t known me long enough to have that same level of comfort. And my best friend? She knows it, and she uses it.
“Sometimes, we only see what’s in front of us when someone else starts to claim it.”
6. Gets Quiet Whenever I Talk About The Future with My Girlfriend
This one hit me hard. The few times I’ve talked about the “future” with my girlfriend — even simple stuff, like where we might go on vacation next year — my best friend goes quiet. It’s not like she’s supportive or encouraging; it’s more of a tense silence, like she’s biting her tongue. I know she has opinions, but she chooses silence, which somehow feels louder. Maybe she’s holding back because she doesn’t want to be obvious… or maybe it’s because she’s uncomfortable picturing a future without her being my closest “partner” in everything.
So… Does She Actually Like Me?
Look, I might be overthinking this, but sometimes it feels like there’s something unspoken between us. Maybe she has feelings she’s never wanted to admit, even to herself. Or maybe she’s just protective of me and doesn’t think anyone is “good enough.” Either way, it’s confusing, and it makes me wonder if this “friendship” has hidden layers I’ve never really explored.
At the end of the day, navigating a friendship that feels more like a relationship with limits is tough. Maybe I’m reading too much into it, or maybe it’s time to have an honest conversation. After all, if she truly cares, shouldn’t she want me to be happy — even if it’s not with her?