Have you ever found yourself stuck in the endless loop of explaining why you did something, felt a certain way, or made a choice? And even after you’ve laid it all out, it still feels like no one really gets it? It’s frustrating, right? Exhausting, even. If you’ve ever just wanted to live your life without constantly narrating it for others, this is for you.
I used to think that if I could just explain myself well enough, people would understand. Like if I just gave them a little more context, they’d finally get where I was coming from. But I learned the hard way that some people simply don’t want to understand. Or maybe they can’t. Either way, I was left feeling drained, always trying to make my choices, feelings, and actions make sense to someone else.
Why should we have to explain why we need some space, or why we left a job, or why we stopped talking to certain people? Sometimes you don’t even fully understand your own decisions until later, and that’s okay. Life doesn’t always need a perfect explanation.
It took me a long time to stop feeling guilty for not explaining myself to everyone. For me, it was the little things — like not responding to texts right away, skipping out on plans, or just wanting time to myself. I used to overthink all of it, crafting excuses that sounded good. But honestly? I was tired of trying to make sense of decisions that were simply about protecting my own peace.
So here’s the thing I’ve come to realize: You don’t owe anyone an explanation for how you live your life. If people don’t get why you need to make certain moves, that’s fine. You don’t need to justify every choice, every moment of quiet, every shift in direction.
Now, when I make decisions, I just do what feels right for me. I don’t go out of my way to explain myself to people who probably won’t understand or might not even care. It’s been freeing, to say the least.
So if you’re feeling this too — like you’re always on the verge of defending yourself, like your choices need a footnote for everyone else — let this be a reminder: You are allowed to just be. Live for yourself without the pressure of explaining every little thing. You’ll be surprised at how much lighter you’ll feel when you finally let go of the need to be understood by everyone.
At the end of the day, you know your reasons, your boundaries, and your truth. That’s what matters.